When parents compare their child with other children, they don’t realize what harm they are causing to his psyche. ‘Nisha, try to become a little outgoing. See Shilpa is so smart’ or ‘If Amit can score so well, I am sure you can too’. Such words of parents in order to ‘improve’ their child not only shake a child’s confidence but his whole personality.
Don’t assess your child in his presence: Hold discussion about your child’s strengths and weak-nesses in private. Names of other children may crop up during such conversations which can make your child feel complexed about himself.
Your child is unique: It’s not just important to avoid comparing your child when he is around
but you also need to stop doing it in your mind. Don’t expect your child to excel in every field or similar areas like the children of your friends or relatives. Your child may possess latent talent which you can help him realize and develop with your encouragement.
Your child’s achievements are not your status symbol: Don’t look for moments of glory in your child’s feats. If your child is not doing too well academically, or is not bringing trophies to flaunt, don’t feel complexed in front of friends and relatives.
Guide your child, spare comp-arisons: Discuss with your child about his areas of weaknesses, and help him to establish yardsticks according to his capabilities and not according to the achievements of friends.
Your opinions mean the most to your child: As parents, you can make or break your child’s confidence. Your attitude to measure his performance against that of other children would make him believe that he is not as good as them. This would destroy his confidence and trust in himself.

So go ahead and give your child a pat on his back saying, ‘I am proud of you’.