As children grow up, their need to have their own independent space makes parents worry and become suspicious. But parents should understand that growing up is not easy for children. They are in a state of confusion where they are neither adults nor children. And parents’ intrusion at this stage will only create tension between them. So, respect your child’s privacy to help him go through this phase smoothly without affecting your relationship with him.
Give your child his own space: Give him a separate room. If that is not possible, allow him to have a personal cupboard, work table, etc. if he likes to keep the door of his room shut, don’t think he is up to something.
Be an alert parent but not an interfering one: As a parent you should know what’s going on in the life of your child. But don’t fish out for details by going through his personal things or pestering him with questions about his private life. This will only make your child feel that you don’t trust him.
Your child’s friends are important to him: This is the phase when a child is more at ease with his agemates. Give freedom to your child to chat and enjoy with his friends in his room. This way he’ll not feel the need to have the fun of growing up.
Guidance and not spying will help: Rather than checking on your child, teach him the difference right and wrong. Bring him up with values and keep reminding him some-times in words or with your own examples. Sharing your own experiences of growing up really works.
Establish a relationship of trust: Develop a rapport with your child so that she doesn’t fear confiding in you. Be flexible in your attitude in order to make your child open up himself in front you. Most importantly, trust your child. Your faith in your child will inspire him to never go astray.